Introduction

When I created my posting schedule for the month of January, I only planned on writing one blog post about sorority recruitment (which is going to be published next week!). However, when I sat down to write this week’s blog post, the only thing that I could write about was Kappa Delta. All my other ideas and half-written drafts seemed less important than this. As a senior, I am preparing for the final time that I will ever get to experience Recruitment and welcome a new pledge class into my sorority. A huge part of my undergraduate life is about to come to an end. I remember what it was like as a potential new member (or a PNM) going through the Recruitment process. I had absolutely no idea what I was doing because no one in my family had ever joined a sorority and no one I knew at WashU was going through this process with me. I spend countless hours watching videos and reading articles about how to figure out how you knew if a sorority was your forever home. However, once Recruitment started, there was one thing I saw that lead me to choosing Kappa Delta. Today, I want to share the best and only piece of sorority recruitment advice I have. Even if you are not interested in joining a sorority, I still think you should stick around because this piece of advice is actually applicable to every aspect of your life!

The Advice

There is so much Recruitment advice out there. I should know since I have probably read most of it out there! Now on the other side of Recruitment, I get asked a lot by girls preparing or going through the Recruitment process for my advice. While most advice out there will tell you how to make yourself seem appealing to the sororities, my advice is going to be very different and maybe the exact opposite of that. It can be easy to forget that this is a mutual selection process and that you are also choosing your home. There is only one thing that I share with potential new members. I tell them to watch the faces of the members they are talking to because their faces should light up when they talk about their sorority sisters. Their smiles should be full and their eyes should have a spark behind them. The members should be overflowing with happiness to talk about their sisters and the impact they have made in their lives. This is the truest piece of advice I can give because it reveals to you the type of sisterhood you at entering into. You should be looking for a sorority where the members truly care and love one another. In my opinion, nothing else should matter. It is only in this type of sisterhood that you can be your authentic self as well as grow into the best version of yourself alongside your sisters.

Conclusion

I am not an expert in Recruitment nor will I ever be. However, I do know people and I know what it looks like when a person truly loves and cares for another. I see this every time when I meet with Sydney and Aleeya for our weekly Director’s meeting. I see this every time I sit down to dinner with Alisa and Marissa and Sarah at Blueberry Hill. I see this every time I laugh with Avie, or text with Nicole, or meet up with my grand-littles Florence and Alisa. I see this every time I go to Chapter and see all of my sorority sisters together in one room. I think that we should all be searching for this in all aspects of our life. We should find it in our friendships, our romantic relationships, and our family members. We should find it in our passion projects and our hobbies. We should find it in the small, day-to-day moments of life. It is these times that we can someone’s heart. Recruitment has taught me how to truly see someone’s heart, and how to put my own heart out there. I think that we can all learn a thing or two from sorority Recruitment, because I believe that we need to put our hearts out there more often and learn to see other’s.